Whether you’re new to electrostimulation or you’ve just Googled “what does e-stim feel like and why does it sound like a sci-fi weapon,” welcome — you’re in the right place. E-stim (short for erotic electrostimulation) is one of the most thrilling, versatile, and misunderstood forms of kink play out there. But as with anything involving electricity and delicate bits, a little knowledge goes a long way.
To make your first session smoother (and less like an accidental science experiment), we’ve rounded up the most common mistakes beginners make — and how to avoid them.
1. Skipping the Safety Basics
Let’s be clear: e-stim isn’t dangerous when done properly, but ignoring safety is like inviting a porcupine to a balloon party — a bad idea all around.
Common rookie mistake? Using DIY or non-certified equipment.
Better choice: Stick with trusted, medically-safe gear designed for erotic use. All of our power boxes, including the ElectroPebble, are CE-marked and battery-powered, meaning they’re inherently safer than mains-powered alternatives.
🛑 NEVER use e-stim above the waist unless you know what you are doing and with the right kit. For beginners, stick to below the waist; that's where the fun stuff is anyway.
2. Not Using the Right Electrodes (Or Enough Lube)
Beginners often grab the first sticky pad they find and call it a day. Or worse, try to use insertables dry.
Always use a good quality conductive lube for insertables, and make sure your electrodes are designed for the type of play you want.
- Want nipple or clit play? Try our Bean-Shaped Pad Electrodes.
- Exploring insertables? Go for the ElectroEgg or Moaner.
- And don’t forget the Conductive Gel.
3. Starting at Max Power (or Turning the Dial While Plugged In)
There’s a special place in the kink hall of shame for people who crank the dial to max before testing. Don’t be that person. You’re not trying to summon Thor.
Start low and slow. Turn your power box on with the levels down, then gradually increase until you feel something — a tingle, pulse, or deep buzz.
Also: never adjust pads or insertables while the box is on. That zap surprise? Not sexy. Not even a little.
4. Misunderstanding Polarity (Monopole vs. Bipolar)
"Wait, I need two pads to feel anything?" Yes. That’s Electricity 101 — the current needs to travel from one point to another.
- Monopole electrodes need to be used in pairs.
- Bipolar electrodes have both poles built in and can be used solo.
Read product descriptions, use proper cables like our 2mm plug leads and adaptors. And when in doubt — ask us!
For newbies, a good place to start would be Joanne's Beginners Guide To E-Stim - FREE Digital Download
5. Poor Electrode Placement
Slapping on pads willy-nilly like they’re decorative stickers won’t get you far. The location and spacing of your electrodes drastically affect sensation.
- Too close together? You’ll either barely feel it or it will be too intense depending on the location.
- Too far apart? You might disperse the current too much.
- Wrong angle? You could miss your target zone.
Experiment with positioning, use mirrors, and check out our Electrode Placement Guide.
6. Forgetting to Clean Your Toys (Properly)
Conductive toys need TLC. A quick rinse won’t cut it.
- Clean metal insertables with warm water and toy cleaner.
- Let them dry completely.
- Store in non-conductive pouches or cases.
Nobody wants "surprise stinging" from leftover lube or corroded contacts. Be kind to your toys — and your bits.
7. Not Planning the Scene (or Using the Wrong Cable)
Imagine everything’s ready… and the leads don’t fit. Or your partner is bound and the pads keep falling off.
Don’t wing it. Plan your scene like a sexy heist movie: prep your gear, test your setup, and check your compatibility.
Our ElectroRing Sizing Pack and custom ElectroPebble Holster can help keep things secure and scene-ready.
Final Thoughts: Laugh, Learn, and Lube Generously
E-stim can be incredibly rewarding — it’s hands-free, intensity-adjustable, and full of discovery. Yes, there’s a bit of a learning curve, but with a healthy sense of humour, a respect for safety, and a good product or two, you’ll be buzzing in all the right ways.
Ready to explore more? Check out our full range of electrodes and e-stim equipment.